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"The community is there," he responded, "I guess I'd question what kind of community we are though? We're a gang of men that talk about cock all the time, yet someone that enjoys a lot of it, we label a slut. We talk about hot we are in the sack yet most guys have that irritating hesitation, like they suspect that it's really not okay. And they guys that really do let go and find everything there is to love in a man we label a pig. God we can be judgmental bitches. Then there is whole new wave of shit, calling a young, HIV-negative gay man a "Truvada whore" simply for choosing a prevention option with a higher efficacy rate than condoms. Becoming indignant when someone says AIDS is still a gay problem. Turning to the police when you find out the guy that just jilted you is HIV-positive. Putting "I'm clean, ub2" in your online profile. Joining digital stonings via online comment sections when a 20-something dares to come out as HIV-positive. HIV-negative guys barebacking with those who tell them they are negative and shunning the few brave ones who admit they're positive. It is a miracle we ever have sex at all."


I love being awake for sunrise. The trees silhouetted against a creamsickle orange sky. The best part is the stillness and the quiet. As the sun peaks over the horizon it almost as if you can hear the world let out a sigh of relief. The first rays strike the treetops as a raccoon scurries away to its daytime lair. A determined jogger heavy breaths his way down the street. The tin notes from his earphones being first to break the silence. The dog comes to me on the patio, finding me stretched out on the yoga mat. She greets me with that combination of "oh my gosh it is great to see you" and "I am starving, Let me lead you to the food." As I get up and head inside the birds start singing joypusly. They are like a group of housewives having coffee after actively holding in the latest gossip during a Sunday sermon.

Who is Robert McDiarmid?

I work very hard to live an uncomplicated life in complicated times. The path towards peaceful living has resulted in great satisfaction and at other times great loss - but that's the trademark of any journey worth looking into. I am a published novelist and short story writer - as well as anavid foodie and food blogger. I host a home cooking show on YouTube which recently celebrated it's 36th video recipe & 120th recipe. I am a web developer for a living. I am proud to work at TechSoup Global, a nonprofit software design group working towards the goal of remixing the web for social change through the sharing of ideas, promoting interactivity and challenging the nonprofit web to take it to the next level. Incredibly nifty stuff! You can see a my other designs and portfolio here. I am an avid cyclist - June 2014 will be my 3rd year as a training ride leader and coach for AIDS Lifecycle, a 545 mile bike ride from San Francisco to Los Angeles. I bike year around; come out on the road with me sometime! So all that makes me a super busy guy - but I always make time for friends and family. I live with my partner, David, and our lovely wonderdog Miss Kate, in beautiful Palo Alto, California.